she says whatever (and so should you)

theangrytherapist:

I come across couples that say they don’t feel love anymore.  This is the reason they believe the relationship is over.  But the truth is they are choosing not to love.  The feeling of love is the fruit the action of love bares.  Because your relationship is not baring this fruit doesn’t mean the tree is dead.  It just means it needs more nurturing, what therapist call “work”.  I think many mistake the feeling of love with the act of love.  Love is an action.  This action produces the feeling.  You make a choice to love someone, then you love them.  Your choice to love someone should not be contingent on how much feeling of love you receive from the relationship.  If so, your love is conditional, which then is not love.  That is a condition.  It’s called making it about you.

- Angry